It is far easier to love someone else than to love yourself, in my opinion. But it is crucially important that we give the same love to ourselves that we give to others. This article may come off as a bit conceited, but I promise that is not the intent. The whole point is to put aside our self-destructive, non-useful (unuseful?) thoughts of ourselves, and remind us to give ourselves the love we deserve.
Have you ever wondered what it would be like to have a text conversation with your depression? Well, wonder no more! Here are some fun little examples. But remember, no matter how insurmountable your depression may seem, there is always a way to beat it. By developing healthy habits, and sticking to a healthy routine, you can up your odds.
“Because of the stigma and misunderstandings surrounding mental illness, many people are reluctant to tell their partners. You may think that ‘what they don’t know won’t hurt them.’ If you’re in a long-term relationship, it’s better to disclose your health condition when you are well than conceal it until an acute episode…To talk to your partner, choose a time when you aren’t actively experiencing mania, anxiety, depression or psychosis.” Source: NAMI
Creative outlets can be extremely powerful to help cope with hardships. In 2015, I turned to writing, specifically poetry to help me through some of my more difficult times. Along that journey, I started writing not just when I was distressed, but all the time. Whether happy or sad, there was something extremely cathartic about putting my feelings on paper. And I’m not alone, it turns out.
For those of you who haven’t heard, there is a new controversial show on Netflix, 13 Reasons Why. The show has garnered a lot of attention, and much of it has stayed away from the objective of the show: to talk about suicide. Many have criticized the show and book as something that glorifies suicide, and teen suicides rate may be impacted. I watched the show, and after 20 years of hiding, I am here to share my story with you all, thanks to 13 Reasons Why.
If I had the chance to visit you, my younger self, a self who was just beginning to struggle with mental illness, what advice could I offer? What wisdom could I impart? I don’t know how long I’ve been struggling, to be honest, but I do know how long I’ve been formally diagnosed with severe depression, anxiety, and adult ADHD and have been seeking help. And if I were to go back to visit Alex before his first doctor’s visit, here are a few pieces of advice I would share.